The most powerful concept in anger management

By Carlos Todd, LPC, NCC, CAMF 

After seeing many clients in anger management it is clear that the concept of anger as a secondary emotion is the most powerful. I have been privileged to see from those who have a limited education to high level business executives and they all understand this very simple concept. They get it. They realize that more than any thing else they must understand that anger is driven by some other emotion like fear, loneliness or feeling overwhelmed. The breakthrough often comes when clients realize that the best way to control the anger is to meet the need that is driving the anger. They also embrace the idea that anger and other emotions are mere signals not a call to action. This change in thinking allows them to develop a level of self talk that allows them to take responsibly for their own emotional needs and meet them in healthy ways. In essence the good anger manager must also be more emotionally intelligent. This concept of anger as a secondary emotion should be thought in all anger management programs. In my mind it is one of the foundational components to long term anger management success.

Gregory A. Kyles, M.A., LPC, CEAP, CAMF
Director, Anger Management Institute of Texas
Diplomate, President of Texas Chapter
American Association of Anger Management Providers
Houston, Texas

The Uniqueness of the Anderson & Anderson Anger Management Curriculum

By George Anderson, MSW, BCD, CAMF

 An anger management model which works

Person-directed violence, road rage, office rage, air port rage, and child abuse are only a few of the many ways that our society suffers from unhealthy anger. Person-directed aggression resulting from stress and anxiety often triggers an individual’s inability to control his or her anger.

The increase in anger/violent related crime has now moved into our communities, sports, schools and workplaces. While there may not be a general agreement on the causes of our increase in violence, it is clear that it is a new epidemic. The Anderson & Anderson Anger Management Curriculum offers a practical model which consists of training in anger management, stress management, communication and emotional intelligence.

The Conover Assessment Component
It is necessary to manage stress first in order to learn to control anger. Stress is usually a precursor and trigger for anger. Empathy/emotional intelligence, the ability to put oneself in someone else’s shoes, is a key component in controlling one’s anger. Assertion is a powerful emotional skill that helps a person to communicate more effectively, honestly, and appropriately. It is the opposite of aggression (anger control/management) or deference (fear control/management). Finally, change orientation is the magnitude of change perceived as desirable for developing personal and life effectiveness. Change orientation includes developing the degree to which a person is motivated and ready for change. This scale is a reliable predictor of an individual’s potential for success through training.

Skill Enhancement Component
The Anderson & Anderson skill enhancement consists of the following four units:
• Anger Management
• Stress Management
• Communication
• Emotional Intelligence
Each skill enhancement module consists of approximately 4 – 5 hours of interactive learning activities, DVDs, listening activities, and post assessments. The Client Workbooks, “Controlling Ourselves and “Gaining Control of Ourselves” contain all of the exercises, logs and assignments.

The curriculum is made more interesting by the use of companion DVDs, CDS, Videos and experiential exercises and quizzes.
For more information or to enroll, contact our office at 310-207-3591 or visit our website at www.andersonservices.com.

Gregory A. Kyles, M.A., LPC, CEAP, CAMF
Director, Anger Management Institute of Texas
Diplomate, President of Texas Chapter
American Association of Anger Management Providers
Houston, Texas

Anger Management Classes in Houston, Texas

Anger Management Institute of Texas provides a safe educational environment for clients to learn socially acceptable means of dealing with anger. You will certainly benefit from our classes by learning what stress is, including stress management strategies that provide alternatives to avoid violent and self-destructive behavior.

Anger Management Institute of Texas uses the Anderson & Anderson intervention program developed by George Anderson, which is the most effective and most widely recognized curriculum in the world. The primary focus of the curriculum is anger management, stress management, assertive communication, and emotional intelligence.

Assessment interviews are by appointment only and must be completed prior to being assigned to a class. Please call 281-477-9105 or visit http://www.ami-tx.com for more information.

Gregory A. Kyles, M.A., LPC, CEAP, CAMF
Anger Management Institute of Texas
http://www.ami-tx.com
gregory@ami-tx.com
Houston, Texas

Positive Feedback about the Anderson & Anderson’s Curriculum

As one of the many anger management providers using the Anderson & Anderson intervention curriculum and program I’ve come to believe it truly serves the purpose I wanted when I decided to start my anger management practice. I wanted a program with an assessment and a curriculum that was simple enough for anyone to follow regardless of their educational background that addressed the different dynamics of the root cause of anger, and that’s just what the Anderson & Anderson’s program provides.

As a member of the “Helping” profession for over 15 years I’m always conscious of whether or not those in the classes recognize my level of empathy, self awareness, self control, and unconditional positive regard. Sometimes I think they get it – and sometimes I think they don’t.

Once the client completes the agreed upon and/or required classes I give them a certificate and an Anger Management Class Review form to fill out, since every good facilitator wants to know how to improve. They have various options regarding the form, they can either fill it out then and there, take it with them to complete and fax or email their responses, or they can elect not to fill it out at all.

I recently received an email from a former student that has given me his permission to post his responses on my web site. I not only know that he left the class with more skills to manage his anger than he had upon enrollment, but I also know it was the curriculum and program that helped me provide him with these new skill sets.

Did you benefit from taking the classes, if so how?

I really did benefit from the classes or I would not be typing an assessment about the classes. There were a lot of things that I just did not know, and sometimes it is just time for an old dog to learn new tricks. First of All, I learned that I avoided – (avoidance) just about everything in my life until now. My life had been about if you get in a little trouble, I could use intimidation, manipulation and just about all the things that were on our Destructive Interactions (Negative Wheel). I learned that these behaviors were not Constructive interactions like Active Listening, Focusing and Expressing my Feelings, these things are positive. Positive is where I want to be.

Did you find the facilitator (Gregory Kyles) knowledgeable about anger management?

Yes, I did find Mr. Kyles facilitation to be very knowledgeable about anger management. Mr. Kyles allowed the students to take something with them with his method of teaching. Greg’s interaction with the students is one of respect and the utmost emotional intellect. As students, we are all going to have feelings about taking this course especially if it is needed by court or job. Most of those feelings being negative, but in this class were learn positive thinking to counter those thoughts. Greg’s intervention and extreme knowledge of situations helped me and most likely will help someone who is in or about to get in the situation I was in.

What did you like about the classes, and what did you dislike about the classes?

I like the interaction with the other students because it just showed that we are not alone in our actions…I think that reviewing what we learned previously help in ways to hammer in some of the things that we may have missed in the previous class. Greg was able to show us things or points about that class that we may have not recognized exactly then, but needed to. I had no dislikes about the class; I started the class in a positive manner and finished with a positive frame of mind.

Would you recommend the program to a family member, co-worker, or friends?

Yes, I would. I feel if you can recognize that you do have some type of anger problem, then just like drugs, knowing is half the battle.

Overall Comments:

I enjoyed Mr. Kyles class; I feel that it helped me a lot. I really don’t ever want to put my self in that position ever again. I jeopardized my family, myself, my job and just my entire existence with being angry.
~Henry H.

Gregory A. Kyles, M.A., LPC, CEAP, CAMF
Anger Management Institute of Texas
Houston, Texas
http://www.ami-tx.com
gregory@ami-tx.com