Anger Management: A New Map

Most of us humans meander through life following the map their parents created for them. They often don’t pause or take the time and effort to appraise themselves to see if old thoughts and behaviors are still working for them working or against them.
Why? Because the thing that we are most afraid of and resistant to is “change”. Change can be awkward and uncomfortable – sometimes terrifying and emotionally painful. The most addicting thing of all is “familiarity”. We all love our comfort zone. It feels safe and it takes a lot less work to follow our original “map” then to look at ourselves and take stock of how well it is working for us. It has been said that “Most people die without ever knowing who they are”. We live on “automatic pilot” But, at what cost? We stay in the same airplane, viewing the same sights over and over and having the same experience repeatedly. We don’t learn anything new. We don’t grow. We don’t evolve into the best people we can be. Worst of all, until we are willing to look inside ourselves, we stay stuck in our old beliefs, thoughts and behaviors despite the reality that they may not be working anymore, or indeed are hampering our true happiness.

In many ways our fear of the unknown terrifies us into living life by “rote”. We stick to our beliefs and our world view and miss the incredible excitement and feeling of well being that comes from growing, learning new things and exploring. I think a lot of us would actually choose to take the risk of change, but don’t because they don’t know they are stuck in the terrain of their parents’ map.

If we do become “aware” (the key word) of this phenomenon at all it is almost always because we hit a wall with our old views. We suffer what is the only thing that makes people even contemplate change: “consequences”. We live in a rut, decorate it, and live unaware and sometimes smugly in our unchanging world – that is until we suffer a consequence of our old ways that is unacceptable to us. It takes enormous courage and willingness to examine ourselves, but nothing changes if nothing changes.

Over the years, for example, friends may have pointed out to you that the way you express anger is scary and they feel brutalized. You say:” That’s the way I’ve always been” or “That’s the way my dad was – if it was good enough for him, it’s good enough for me.”
We might keep losing important relationships due to our unrealistic expectations we’ve been taught (old map) or developed. We are unaware of our part in it and say: “Men are all jerks” or “I never met a woman I could trust”.

Worst, our anger or resentments might continuously become the cause of sabotaging loving relationships, estrangement from family, or trouble with the law. We may have become hostages to confusion or fears or low self-esteem. We know our life is not working, but we don’t know why.

Whether you’ve made a decision to become more enlightened or have experienced hurtful or harmful consequences of your behaviors, there is a solution.

CREATE A NEW MAP. Create it based on your own needs and experiences and dreams.You deserve to follow your personal guide that works best for you and, even though you don’t believe you have the capacity to do this because of unawareness or fear. You can do it.

I know you can, because I did it. Take out a sheet of paper or do it online – Start the map from where you are right now in your life. Then draw on it the kinds of experiences you want to have – you get to choose the way and the destination. Certainly thank your parents for their map which helped you survive in your family of origin, then take the controls of your airplane.
We are not victims. We are responsible for our happiness. And whether it’s an epiphany or a jail cell that causes you to be willing to change, you can decide at any moment to create, love and travel through the years with your personal journey mapped out by you.

By Susan Levy http://www.daybreakservices.com

Anger Management Classes in Houston, Texas 7 days a week

Gregory A. Kyles, M.A., LPC, CEAP, CAMF
Director, Anger Management Institute of Texas
Diplomate, President of Texas Chapter
American Association of Anger Management Providers
http://www.ami-tx.com
http://www.ami-tx.org
https://gregorykyles.wordpress.com
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How are you feeling today?

Most people do not stop to reflect upon the meaning of that question, yet typically their answer is “OK.” During the hurry of the day, it may be a bit much to consider how one might be “feeling.”

It is the very act of pausing and considering one’s feelings that are significant to anger control. Most people understand the concept of emotional intelligence – all those skills that assist people to manage their relationships successfully and are vital to conflict resolution, anger control, and positive outcome. It would be to our benefit to reflect upon the relationships we have and the feelings that arise and consider if we know how to create a win-win situation when conflict arises. Often, we are not taught the skills of emotional intelligence or conflict resolution; instead, we react and do not know how to respond.

Remember the last time you had a physical? The doctor may have stuck your knee with a small hammer, your knee reacted automatically, and your leg kicked out. This is similar to when we react in anger. At this point, our reaction is “programmed” to yell, sulk, stuff, berate, criticize, and on and on. When we embark on changing the course in our relationships with ourselves and others, we make a conscious choice to make internal changes for the better. We know our triggers, reactions, and behavior. We take accountability for our actions in anger and conflict.

Knowing how you “feel” becomes the guidance system that helps you navigate your triggers. Make the conscious choice to take charge of your feelings and your actions by resolving your conflict.

By Sonia Brill, LCSW, CAMF http://www.soniabrillconsulting.com

Anger Management Classes available 7 days a week in Houston, Texas.

Gregory A. Kyles, M.A., LPC, CEAP, CAMF
Director, Anger Management Institute of Texas
Diplomate, President of Texas Chapter
American Association of Anger Management Providers
http://www.ami-tx.com
http://www.ami-tx.org
https://gregorykyles.wordpress.com
http://www.linkedin.com/in/gregorykyles
http://www.myspace.com/anger_management_expert

The Link Between Anger and Trauma

Every new case I work with  I learn more  about the anatomy of anger.  A recent observation is the link between trauma and anger. Although it must be made clear that anger management is a class that teaches skills there is no doubt that some of the time  chronic anger is associated with some traumatic experience. The trauma could be overt or covert. It could be abuse or it could be a associated with a parent who was over bearing and uncaring. What I have observed is that trauma tends to lead to feelings of insecurity or being unsafe, this state of mind then leads to hyper-sensitivity or hyper vigilance to the presence of emotional threat, which in turn leads to a constant or heightened state of being ready for a fight.

Anger is then a symptom of a person who may be deeply insecure and feels the need to constantly protect themselves. To overcome this state of mind will take a combination of therapy and the development of emotional intelligence which will help the individual understand their own emotions as well as the emotions of others learn ways to respond to the world as less of a threat.

By Carlos Todd, LPC, NCC, CAMF http://www.masteringanger.com

Anger Management Classes available 7 days a week in Houston, Texas.

Gregory A. Kyles, M.A., LPC, CEAP, CAMF
Director, Anger Management Institute of Texas
Diplomate, President of Texas Chapter
American Association of Anger Management Providers
http://www.ami-tx.com
http://www.ami-tx.org
https://gregorykyles.wordpress.com
http://www.linkedin.com/in/gregorykyles
http://www.myspace.com/anger_management_expert

 

Anger Management Classes in Houston, Texas

Houston based anger management program has responded to the needs of busy individuals and offers weekend classes every weekend to its clients.

Class Schedule:

It is recommended, but not required, all Self Referral and Employer Referral students complete 16 Hours of Anger Management to receive a Certificate of Completion.

• Employer referrals need written documentation from Employer detailing the required number of hours if enrolling for less than 16 hours.

The 16 Hours came be completed in 2 weekends if you attend 8 hours per weekend (Sat & Sun) or in 1 month if you attend 4 hours per weekend. You can choose when and what days you want to attend as long as you complete 4 hours in Anger Management, 4 hours in Stress Management, 4 hours in Assertive Communication, and 4 hours in Emotional Intelligence within an 8 week time period.

Other Class Options are available:

8 Hours classes:
The 8 Hours can be completed in 1 weekend if you attend 4 hours Saturday, and 4 hours Sunday or you can attend 2 Saturdays or 2 Sundays. The 8 hours must be completed with a 4 week time period.

12 Hours Classes:
The 12 Hours can be completed in 2 weekends or a mixture of Saturday and Sunday 4 hours classes. The 12 hours must be completed with an 8 week time period.

Saturdays:
8:00 a.m. – 12:00 noon
Sundays:
1:00 p.m. – 5:00 p.m.

Fees: Classes – $20 per hour
Anger Assessment and Workbook available for purhase, but not required – $30 Each.

Who can benefit from these classes?

• Anyone who is court mandated
• Those who have limited time
• Individuals who want to know more about anger management
• Those who are fed up with counseling that has not helped
• Those ordered to anger management for multiple sessions

Call us today at 281-477-9105 to reserve a seat in our next class. Complete and full details on Anger Management Institute of Texas can be found at http://www.ami-tx.com. To reach Gregory Kyles directly please call to 713-817-1681 or email him at gregory@ami-tx.com

Gregory A. Kyles, M.A., LPC, CEAP, CAMF
Director, Anger Management Institute of Texas
http://www.ami-tx.com
http://www.ami-tx.org
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http://www.myspace.com/anger_management_expert

Naomi Campbell Never Received Anger Management Services

Through no fault of her own, Naomi Campbell, like so many other
celebrities, has never received anger management. Instead, she has
received counseling or psychotherapy for what amounts to a non-
existing mental or emotional disorder. Further, the person who
provided the services had no formal training or experience in teaching
or coaching anger management.

According to the American Psychiatric Association, anger is a normal
human emotion. Everyone experiences anger. All mental and nervous
disorders are catalogued and listed in The Diagnostic and Statistical
Manual of Nervous and Mental Disorders (DSMIV). There is no listing
for anger. Anger is considered by the APA to be a “lifestyle” issue.

Authorities in the field of anger management consider anger to be a
problem under the following conditions:

* When it is too intense
* When it occurs too frequently
* When it leads to health problems
* When it lasts too long
* When it destroys work, school or family relationships
* Or when it leads to aggression or person-directed violence

Anger management is a class that can be taught using a one-on-one
coaching format or small group. All providers must have specific
training and Certification in Anger Management. Prior to enrollment in
an anger management class, each participant must undergo an
assessment. The assessment is designed to determine the client’s level
of functioning in recognizing stress, anger, assertive communication
and empathy/emotional intelligence. The fifth assessment area is
“motivation to change”.

Following the assessment, clients who are motivated to change are
assigned a client workbook with skill enhancement information,
exercises and quizzes to increase performance in the aforementioned
areas. Following the completion of the anger management coaching or
class, a post-test is given to determine the success, or lack of
success, of the anger management intervention.

While some mental health professionals are also Certified Anger
Management Facilitators, most psychiatrists, psychotherapists and
psychologists have no training in this field. Currently, none of the
training programs in Medicine, Clinical Social Work or Clinical
Psychology offer training or Certification in Anger Management
Facilitation. This can easily be confirmed by simply contacting the
Professional Schools in your State and asking: Do you offer training
in anger management for mental health professionals?

For a list of trained, Certified Anger Management Facilitators/
Coaches, visit the following websites: www.andersonservices.com,
www.anger-management-resources.com or www.aaamp.org.

By Rasheed Ahmed http://www.andersonservices.com

Anger Management Classes available 7 days a week in Houston, Texas.

Gregory A. Kyles, M.A., LPC, CEAP, CAMF
Director, Anger Management Institute of Texas
Diplomate, President of Texas Chapter
American Association of Anger Management Providers
http://www.ami-tx.com
http://www.ami-tx.org
https://gregorykyles.wordpress.com
http://www.linkedin.com/in/gregorykyles
http://www.myspace.com/anger_management_expert

 

BBC Documentary on Anger Management Was a Remarkable Success!

The filming of the Griff Rhys-Jones Documentary on anger management was completed yesterday at the Brentwood Home of George Anderson, BCD, LCSW. On Saturday, March 29th, director James Runcie from London filmed George Anderson leading an anger management group, in which Mr. Rhys-Jones was a participant. Later on, Mr. Rhys-Jones was filmed in a one-on-one session with Mr. Anderson. During this time, an anger management assessment was conducted, followed by an interpretation of the assessment and presentation of the client workbooks and additional assessments.

Ron Owens, a former Parolee who is an anger management success story, was interviewed by Mr. Jones relative to his transition from violence to successful management of his rage. The first day of shooting ended with footage taken in Rustic Canyon.

On the next day, George Anderson and Griff Rhys-Jones reviewed his first lessons on Stress Management and its importance in emotion intelligence and self control. The scenes were filmed on an outside deck in Mr. Anderson’s home. Once the filming ended, the director James Runcie, along with Griff Rhys-Jones and the film crew were treated to a barbecue hosted by Nancy and George Anderson.

Once this document is aired on British Television, it will likely lead to an increase in the use of the Anderson & Anderson’s anger management model worldwide.

By George Anderson, MSW, BCD, CAMF http://www.andersonservices.com/

Anger Management Institute of Texas is a certified Anderson & Anderson ® provider.

Anger Management Classes available 7 days a week in Houston, Texas.

Gregory A. Kyles, M.A., LPC, CEAP, CAMF
Director, Anger Management Institute of Texas
Diplomate, President of Texas Chapter
American Association of Anger Management Providers
http://www.ami-tx.com
http://www.ami-tx.org
https://gregorykyles.wordpress.com
http://www.linkedin.com/in/gregorykyles
http://www.myspace.com/anger_management_expert