Managing Your Anger using Assertive Communication

When someone says something to you do you instantly fly into a rage? Do you switch into a manipulation mode and try to make things work the way you want them? Do you intimidate people to get what you want? If your answer is yes to any of these questions you should consider that you have an anger management problem.

Anger is a part of everyday life and its something we can’t run away from or avoid. Many times the reason we are having problems is because no one every taught us how to deal with anger. Maybe we saw people in our homes exhibiting a certain behavior when angry and we adopted that some type of behavior.

When you think about it you will probably also notice that you are probably experiencing fear when you first start to feel anger. In fact, fear is often a major cause of anger because both emotions make us feel out of control. When some people feel out of control their first reaction is to lash out.

Employers have begun to look at the area of anger management because they understand that some great employees may have problems getting along with others because they haven’t been taught how to do it. They recommend anger management classes for specific employees and they attempt to help them improve.

Anger can also be destructive and can lead to violence. In order to stop this from happening many people learn what to do to control their impulses and become a more balanced individual. In order to do this some people will need anger management training.

Anger management has two basic goals. First, it is to help you reduce the feelings of anger and secondly it is to help you control the physical feelings you have as you are leading up to an angry episode. When you are exhibiting angry behavior it is more difficult to calm yourself down than if you understand your triggers and stop them before they start. Learning to manage your anger can help you become a stronger employee and open you to opportunities in the workplace.

Anger management is an important part of life in general because it makes you a healthier person. A person who shows anger all the time is also sufferance from avoidance of problems that need to be confronted head on.

Communicate more effective using Assertive Communication: If you are the type of person who doesn’t stand up for yourself and has difficulty interacting with others, you can benefit from learning to be more assertive in your communications. This doesn’t mean becoming aggressive it is the ability to express yourself through your opinions, feelings and attitudes without taking advantage of someone else or without causing anxiety to yourself. Learning to use “I” statements instead of blaming and using facts instead of judgments are two ways that you can learn to communicate more effectively and express your feelings. By doing this you will encourage positive feedback from others around you.

Anger Management Institute of Texas is a certified Anderson & Anderson ® provider.

Anger Management Classes and Anger Management – Executive Coaching available in Houston, Texas.

Gregory A. Kyles, M.A., LPC, CEAP, CAMF
Director, Anger Management Institute of Texas
Diplomate, President of Texas Chapter
American Association of Anger Management Providers